The Fairytale Philosophy for Healthy Wedding Planning: How To Manage Your Energy Before, During, and Happily Ever After

Marcello Pedalino, Celebrate Life, FairyTale Wedding Planning, Talk Space, CelebrateLifeBook.comYou’ve probably seen the movies that make fun of wedding planners for being too over the top.  You’ve most likely watched t.v. shows about Bridezillas who have lost touch with reality.  And there’s a good chance that you’ve read a few articles that said you can easily reduce stress if you just follow “10 steps” while planning your wedding reception.

While most of the aforementioned are well-intended, the majority miss the big picture of successful wedding planning and fail to acknowledge the long-term wellness benefits of prioritizing  and being disciplined during this incredible experience.

Energy and expectation management along with work and life integration extends far beyond just the days leading up to the wedding, the wedding reception itself, and the honeymoon as individual occurrences.  Consider the following guidance if you are interested in achieving fulfillment on a consistent basis… not just for a single chapter of your life. 

Marcello Pedalino, Celebrate Life, FairyTale Wedding Planning, Talk Space, 2Take Care of Yourself:   If you can’t take of yourself, you can’t take care of your partner and the people who depend on you.    Imagine meticulously planning the “perfect” wedding reception only to show up at the altar that day sleep-deprived, stressed-out, and saying to yourself, “I just want this to be over so I can relax.”  Unfortunately,  as a professional in the live events and entertainment production industry for twenty five years,  I’ve heard this verbatim from brides more often than you’d think.

Can it be avoided? Yes. 

How?  Make sleep, nutrition, and daily exercise a priority.  Do this every day during the planning process so you are firing on all cylinders on your wedding day.  You’ll be the ultimate host and be able to enjoy your once-in-a-lifetime occasion as much as your guests.  Bonus- you’ll look and feel fabulous on your honeymoon!   And when you come back, continue with your active and healthy lifestyle.  It makes no sense to spend upwards of a year to get in the best shape of your life for one day and then let yourself go for the next 60 years.   By all means, enjoy the deliciousness of your dream wedding and a fairytale  honeymoon, but be careful not to over-indulge.  This slippery and habit-forming slope can easily carry over to the months and years that follow if a commitment to wellness isn’t made part of your daily routine.  Don’t be that recent newlywed who just waits for the next January 1st to arrive on the calendar each year so they can say, “I’m finally going to get back into shape again.”  The “honeymoon phase” is a misnomer.  The rest of your life can feel like a honeymoon if you are with the right person, travel whenever possible, do fun things, live in the present, and continue to support each other’s dreams. 

Marcello Pedalino, Celebrate Life, FairyTale Wedding Planning, Talk Space, 3Delegate or Suffocate:  The months leading up to the wedding will set the tone for the rest of your life.  I get it… you have a type- A personality like me and you think that regardless of whatever anybody else says, you can do everything yourself.  Well, in some cases, this is true. And good for you for being so independent, hardworking and reliable.  However, when it comes to the wedding day, if you try to do more than you should, your partner and guests will suffer.  

You’ll be the one sweating profusely as the guests are seated for the ceremony because you are trying to adjust a broken centerpiece inside the ballroom that was accidentally knocked over by the service staff.  You’ll be the one missing the arrival of your friends who flew across the country to see you because you are re-cueing up music that won’t play on your iPad even though you tested it twice the day before.  You’ll be that awkward bride fumbling with your macbook  because the montage you made to play while you danced with your dad isn’t playing on the venue’s screen even though they assured you “we’ll take care of it.”  Instead, to significantly reduce the chances of things going wrong and increase the chances that your event can be “The Best Wedding Reception… Ever,” invest in a Wedding Entertainment Director, a highly referred Wedding Planner, or a prominent “day of” coordinator as your budget permits.

Marcello Pedalino, Celebrate Life, FairyTale Wedding Planning, Talk Space, 4These professionals will enable you to put your signature on every detail while still allowing  you to be in the moment when it counts.  They’ll help you anticipate things that you didn’t even know could be an issue and proactively execute solutions.   The really good ones do all of this without you even realizing it.  The really-really good ones not only have a huge impact on the over-all success of your milestone event, they help you maintain a desirable quality of life leading up to it as well because they save you precious time and energy.

Granted, there are some wedding preparations you can do as a solo project or together as a date night activity that are fun and can save you money, but there are a lot things that should be delegated so you don’t carry any unnecessary regrets of irreplaceable quality time with loved ones.

Marcello Pedalino, Celebrate Life, FairyTale Wedding Planning, Talk Space, 5As you plan your wedding and go through the rest of your life, you’ll start appreciating that always taking care of yourself and delegating when possible are paramount if you want to experience the best that life has to offer.   Whether it’s inclement weather on your wedding day, a personal crisis, a family illness, or a career snafu-  unforeseen issues are going to pop up whether you like them or not.  Because that’s how the universe works sometimes.  However, if you are in the best shape possible- mentally, physically, and spiritually , you’ll be able to handle anything that comes your way.  And if you put your ego aside and enlist the help of others , you can star in your own fairytale story and write your own happy ending.


The MMP Entertainment and Event Production Team helps the world Celebrate Life! MMP is led by Executive Director, 3-Time National DJ Entertainer of the Year and ADJA Leadership Award recipient, Marcello Pedalino.



Marcello Pedalino, Celebrate Life, Wedding Planning, CelebrateLifeBook.comMarcello Pedalino is the Executive Director of MMP Entertainment & Event Production and author of the new inspirational book, “Celebrate Life: How to Live it Up, Discover Fulfillment, and Experience the Joy You Deserve.” (

A three-time national DJ Entertainer of the Year, Marcello and his company help clients have the time of their lives at Weddings, Bat Mitzvahs, and countless other milestone occasions.


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